We are meeting on a boat in the westlake marina. I will meet you outside and bring you in when you arrive at 1800 westlake. We will be docked and seats are very limited.
The Swipe Right Project is about becoming curious---about who you are, what really motivates you, and what your soul most deeply desires. It is a practice, both spiritual and practical, that asks you to dig deep and be vulnerable with yourself and others, but through this work, suffering becomes optional. When we date consciously, we enter into a much different, and kinder, agreement. We agree that it's okay to be alone. We agree that we're enough. We agree that suffering is optional. When we move from this place of radical acceptance, we stop hiding. Dating is no longer the seeking of partnership for the sake of not being alone--it becomes a joyful adventure of deeply knowing and loving ourselves and others. Learning The Swipe Right way of dating is not a game; it is a practice. It is a commitment to serving the good, to self-love, and to acting with mindfulness.
Dating as an activity doesn't have a particularly positive reputation--for good reason. Dull conversation, awkward silences, unreturned texts or phone calls, the absence of desirable matches--it's a routine that often leaves people feeling exhausted and powerless. Sometimes it feels as though we should expect to boomerang between excitement and suffering, optimism and fear.
It isn't helpful that our culture today leads too many of us to believe that we're not enough. We're made to feel like we should pretend to be people we're not; hide our age, and drum up our wealth and success in ways that embolden the ego and weaken the soul. By this logic, we're supposed to hide ourselves in order to find love. Sounds strange, doesn't it? And yet, we all do it! Somewhere along the way we've internalized the false idea that dating should be painful, and that it's common to suffer for love. As a result, we end up dating with a scarcity mindset, repeatedly seeing the wrong people, and behaving in ways that do not align with our souls. We wear masks out of fear of rejection, and fear of being alone. However, dating doesn't need to be this way. Even with all of its challenges, dating can be a joyful and expansive experience that teaches us about ourselves and others at every step on the path.