Missed Translations

As he approached his 30th birthday, Sopan Deb found comfort in his day job as a writer for the New York Times and as a practicing comedian. But his stage material highlighting his South Asian culture only served to mask the insecurities borne from his family history.
Sopan knew the facts: his parents, both Indian, separately immigrated to North America in the 1960s and 1970s. They were brought together in a volatile and ultimately doomed arranged marriage and raised a family in suburban New Jersey before his father returned to India alone.
Sopan had never learned who his parents were as individuals—their ages, how many siblings they had, what they were like as children, what their favorite movies were. Theirs was an ostensibly nuclear family without any of the familial bonds. Coming of age in a mostly white suburban town, Sopan’s alienation led him to seek separation from his family and his culture, longing for the tight-knit home environment of his white friends. His desire wasn’t rooted in racism or oppression; it was born of envy and desire—for white moms who made after-school snacks, asked his friends about the girls they liked, and the teachers they didn’t. Sopan yearned for the same.
Sopan’s experiences as one of the few people of color covering the Trump campaign, and subsequently as a stand up comedian, propelled him on a dramatic journey to India to see his father—the first step in a life altering journey to bridge the emotional distance separating him from those whose DNA he shared. His latest book, Missed Translations, beautifully and poignantly chronicles his odyssey and raises questions essential to us all: Is it ever too late to pick up the pieces and offer forgiveness? How do we build bridges where there was nothing before—and what happens to us, to our past and our future, if we don’t?
Join Sopan for an online conversation about the silence and ignorance that separate us, and the blood and stories that connect us.
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Sopan Deb is a writer for the New York Times, as well as a New York City-based standup comedian. Before joining the Times, Deb was one of a handful of reporters who covered Donald Trump's presidential campaign from start to finish as a campaign embed for CBS News. He covered hundreds of rallies in more than 40 states for a year and a half and was named a “breakout media star” of the election by Politico. He won an Edward R. Murrow award for a documentary he produced for The Boston Globe called Larger Than Life, which told the story about the NBA Hall of Famer Bill Russell’s complicated relationship with the city of Boston. Deb lives in New York City.