The Enneagram Subtypes in Relationship with Others

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Category: Action, Contemplation

Facilitated by Leslie Hershberger

How can people be the same Enneagram type yet look so different?

The reason we often look so different from someone with the same Enneagram type is that we express our type patterns through one of 3 dominant subtype INSTINCTS: Self Preservation, Social Belonging and Sexual or One to One Bonding. 

Do these instincts affect our relationships?

Yes. Our primary subtype has a powerful impact in our relationships. Some say our subtype/instinct is more important than our Enneagram style in relationship with others. One person may want to connect through intimacy and sexuality, while another finds connection through a home project done together or preparing a meal together while another comes alive through getting involved in a social cause or group. Conflict and disconnection arises when people don't have the same amount of energy 

In this class, you will:

• Learn the three Enneagram subtypes and how it gets channeled through these human instincts.

• Reflect on your dominant subtype and explore its advantages and challenges.

• Learn how each Enneagram type expresses each subtype. (For instance, Self-preservation 9s look very different from Self-preservation 6s and 8s!)

• Listen to PANELS of each subtype share their experience of their dominant subtype/instinct plays out in their life.

• Break into subtype groups in order to unpack how your subtype impacts important relationships with intimates, friends and groups.

Highly Recommended (not required) reading: 

• Instinctual Subtypes in Relationships Handbook by Peter O'Hanrahan: 

• https://theenneagramatwork.com/products/instinctual-subtypes-in-relationships-handbook-english

• The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut PhD

Leslie Hershberger is a leading teacher of the Enneagram and a skilled facilitator, consultant and coach who's work spans the U.S and Europe. She's on the board of the International Enneagram Association and she's known not only for her unique interventions in team dynamics, but also for her humor and insightful facilitation of Enneagram panels. She's a huge fan of the work of The Hive and is excited to join us for this dive into the Enneagram.  Leslie is one of the Hive's Core Facilitators.